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The “Still Single?” Stigma

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Say that ten times fast, betcha can’t!  lol well tongue twisters aside, being single can seem like a life twister too. For some unfathomable reason, people have a hard time seeing each other single.

Why it’s almost as if, well if one of us has the courage to make up our own  mind about our own life and most especially our own relationship status, then it must mean that the paired up among us are what? Too easily influenced by others and DON’T have the courage to make their own decisions in life? hmm? Could that be the real reason we get hounded at every family gathering, Christmas party etc. asking about whether or not we’ve found someone to leave stinky, balled-up socks under our beds? Read More

extraordinary origins

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Who doesn’t love a good origin story, right? Batman and his parent’s night at the opera ruined by a crazy clown asking weird riddles whilst pointing a gun. The Bionic Woman’s parachute failing to open, Mr. Magoo, falling into a vat of acid….OK, THAT never happened but it would’ve explained his terrible eyesight! Right? Read More

Get thinking about Drinking

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Should you quit drinking?

We all love drinking to some degree. It seems it is an integral part of our lives in the culture we live in. It is firmly enmeshed in our lives in some way or another. Alcohol to celebrate, the “God I need a drink days” and the summer day cold beer is an absolute must. All of our movies, TV, books, stories we share with friends, stories our parents told us, we all have alcohol stories. But is it necessary in our lives and just how much damage does alcohol do? Is it worth it? Would we be able to have as much fun without it? With it? Let’s have a look at our lives and see; should we give up drinking?
The hangover
Let’s face it, we’ve all been hungover to some degree or another. Unlike the movies, we rarely wake up married to find a sexy tiger in the bathroom. (er, you can take that literally or figuratively) Read More

Love hurts, but should it?

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‘The difference between like, love and in love, is the same difference between; for now, for a while and forever”

Ah the multi-faceted, many headed monster we call love. There are so many ways to feel and so few clues to help us understand that heady, light-headed, heart-pounding feeling we get when we are with that certain someone. Often we get feelings for people we really don’t know at all. For example; teachers, bosses, celebrities, people who we see in a certain way and often our feelings are our own projections as to who and what they are. We fantasize relationships, have whole conversations in our heads, but when we actually meet the real person and see them for who they are, they are rarely anything like we thought. Other times we see someone every day and develop a crush on them, which really is, well a crushing feeling. Just what is the difference between love, infatuation and a crush?

Infatuation

‘Early in the morning I can’t sleep
I can’t work and I can’t eat
I’ve been drunk all day, can’t concentrate
Maybe I’m making a big mistake
Caught me down like a killer shark
It’s like a railroad running right through my heart
Jekyll and Hyde the way I behave
Feel like I’m running on an empty gauge
Oh no not again
It hurts so good
I don’t understand
Infatuation’

Sounds familiar? Well that’s infatuation….at least according to Rod Stewart. Though it does seem pretty accurate to those of us who have felt it.
Infatuation is the state of being completely lost in the emotion of unreasoning desire. It can be very painful and more often than not never ends in a very satisfying relationship. It is often based on an unreasonable or unrealistic idea of the object of your infatuation. An infatuation can build up over a long period of time and can be maintained, with little to no actual romantic interaction between you. There are even extreme cases of people becoming violent toward the object of their infatuation after confessing their feelings to them and finding out lo and behold that the object is totally oblivious to those feelings and worse, doesn’t return them. Infatuation is generally an unhealthy type of love and one that should be avoided. If you feel yourself attracted to someone, for goodness sake, ask them out! Don’t let fear get the better of you and turn a healthy attraction into a dangerous obsession. If the person isn’t available, then let it go. There is just no sense in harboring feelings for someone that simply cannot or will not return them. Thankfully most people will let go of an infatuation once they actually got to know the person.
A crush

A crush is a much milder form of infatuation. It’s like a crash crush It is often something we can easily admit to, it is more playful and can be quite fun to have some crushes on people we admire here and there. As long s we don’t let it fester. There can be non-sexual crushes we feel for our heroes and people we admire, often it is of very short duration.

“I miss the old days where if you liked someone, all you had to do was chase them around the playground.”

Yeah love can sure be complicated. I see so many of my friends get caught up in confusion over their feelings. Whether what you feel is infatuation, a crush or true love, the best thing you can do is enjoy while it makes you feel good and know when to let it go when it is tearing you up. Life is just too short to cause yourself misery. And you, my kiddies deserve all the love in the world!

What time is it? Spring forward time!

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Spring forward and Fall back. That’s how I always remember which is which. That joyful time in the fall when, if at the pub or the club, you get an extra hour before last call…and on the converse side that dammit moment when you realize you get one less hour of fun that night!  Not to mention having to catch up on sleep somehow and being late for everything for a week or so and that weird feeling that it is either too light out or too dark out.

Just what is Daylight Savings Time and why do we do it? Read More

Movie Magic

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With the 88th Oscars now behind us, I got thinking about why we love movies so much and why they are so great for date night. I am a big fan of the Academy Awards, always have been. It’s a great chance to see movie actors outside of a role, I love hearing what they say in their speeches, I cry with them, I laugh with them, I envy them and I even pity them, because living your life in the public eye is not easy. Of course most of us would gladly trade places with them, but if I had my picture taken every time I did something silly, dumb or embarrassing….well, let’s just say there’d be a lot of pictures. Read More

making it better

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Today kiddies, we will be learning together some tips and tricks for getting the most out of online and telephone dating systems. After consulting with my super team of experts, I have some very useful handy-dandy notes for you.
What makes someone an expert in telephone and internet dating you ask? Simple. They have a great romantic life. DUH.
What did you think? A PhD from Hardline U? Read More

how to enjoy the rest of February

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Now that Valentine’s Day is over, however do we get through the rest of this miserable month? We’ve gone through our self-assessment, house-cleaning, wardrobe inspection and still we have the rest of February to deal with. Now is a good time to find some local activities to get involved with. We had a wonderful snowshoe hike through one of our local popular nature trails and it was just wonderful! Read More

Special V-Day without the stress

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If you’re like me then you don’t want to do the same old lame-ass Valentine’s Day as everyone else. But, you also don’t want to break the bank. Myself I prefer fun over romantic. In fact to me a great relationship is one in which I feel close to the person and comfortable. Is it me or does a too romantic situation feel almost uncomfortable? Like giggle-worthy? Read More