We’ve all dreamed of finding the perfect guy for ourselves. The problem, however, is to make that guy actually exist in our lives. It can be difficult to figure out where to start looking and what to do to lure him in. For better or for worse, plenty of the work that needs to be done isn’t actually out in the world. You need to focus on yourself first and see to it that you’re the best you that you’re capable of being. But it’s not as scary as it may sound. Check out our 5 ways to take matters into your own hands when finding the love of your life!
Be Accountable For Your Own Life
First off, you need to be an adult. Pay your own bills, learn from your own mistakes, and otherwise take charge of how you live. It’s a major turn-off to see someone being dependent when they’re very capable of being independent. Don’t become one of those people. Start getting your life in order and show your future guy that you’re not expecting him to be your daddy.
Don’t Play Games
Confusing people or messing with their heads usually isn’t the best way to get on their good side. And even if it works, it’s probably unhealthy. No good relationship succeeds in such ways and you’ll risk losing a person who could have ended up being the love of your life. Nobody wants to put up with someone who won’t show them some basic respect.
Love The Person, Not Their Affection
Start learning the difference between having feelings for someone and just responding positively to the attention they show you. If you find yourself falling for anybody who gives you a scrap of affection, you may have this issue. Give yourself some general standards and only allow yourself to chase after guys who you’re actually attracted to.
Continue Doing The Things You Love To Do
Just try to do them in social situations, especially those involving new people (knitting groups, book clubs, whatever it is you like to do). If you meet someone while doing something you love, there’s a better chance that you two will have some great things in common. If you chase guys when you’re outside of your element, then you’re only going to find guys that are incompatible with you.
Focus On Quantity
In the good way, of course. We’re not saying that you should go to a club and ask out every single guy until one of them says yes. We’re just saying that you should be taking advantage of every opportunity that suits you. This is why places like Hardline are so handy. Find plenty of men who match your standards through our numerous options to hunt for that perfect someone!
Have you found the love of your life yet? What tactics have you tried? Tell us in the comments!