Even though we live in modern, fairly progressive times, being gay can still be tough. There’s still plenty of bigotry and hate out there. Coming out can still be an anxiety-inducing process, fighting for same-sex rights is stressful, and everyday insults and jeers can make you feel nothing short of sad. It’s because of these things that every gay guy should have a support team, a group of individuals that are there for him no matter what. The following is a list for your beginner’s kit.
A Sassy Friend
Gay guys in particular have been stereotyped as being non-stop fun, always there to brighten a person’s day. But what happens when the sassy gay friend needs some lovin’ himself? You can’t always be the life of every interaction, amirite? You’re only human. Sometimes you run out of steam. Sometimes you want someone else to take on the burden of entertainment. Sometimes you want someone to make you laugh. Having a fun person in your corner can be a great deal of help, persuading you to put a smile on your face even when you’re feeling down.
Yes, “Family” is capitalized for a reason. It’s the distinction between family—that which you had no control over receiving—and Family—that with which you totally chose to surround yourself because they’re, you know, supportive. Cut out the toxic, selectively ignorant people of your life and fill those holes with friends who are awesome. The more people you have in your life that respect and love you exactly as you are, the better off you’ll be.
The usual go-to’s are a cat or dog, but there’re always rabbits, ferrets, hamsters, and a slew of other fuzzy creatures that can make you happy. Allergic to all manners of fluff? Consider a bird, reptile, or fish. Hell, even a hermit crab. It doesn’t matter. What matters is you have somebody you can come home to every day, something that’ll listen to your every word and love you unconditionally whether it’s because they want to or because they have to. You’re the one feeding them, after all. But it’s nice to feel like you have at least one unrelenting purpose in life: a pet.
Apps and websites such as Hardline Chat can help men find each other not only for love, but for friendship and building a sense of community. Use these available online services to connect with people who have similar life experiences as you, regardless of them living right next door or in another country. That’s the beauty of the internet; we can use it to truly reach anybody we’d like. Take it for your advantage.